When you turn over in the morning you want to be confident that your partner in life is also your best friend.

Rick Elgersma, LMFT, M. Litt
Des Moines Area Couples Counseling and Coaching!

Co-Therapy For You

It's Time To Show Up For Practice: Co-Therapy at Real Connections … You & Your Dream Relationship Team

Ready to tackle challenges together and build a thriving partnership? Real Connections offers you CoTherapy, a powerful, Crème de la Crème level collaborative approach to couples counseling.

Imagine an experience with your cotherapy team as ongoing practice that can create your dream relationship. You work hard ... blood, sweat, and tears kind of hard sometimes. But at the end of it you'll have the kind of love you may never have dreamed you could have. Here, you don't go to practice alone. You have the benefit of a professional team who counsels and coaches you as you grow to championship levels of couplehood. Our skilled therapists & coaches provide comprehensive guidance at the highest level of teamwork who support you as you reach your relationship goals.

Like teammates on the court or field, we show up for judgement free practice together, strategizing and working on the tough stuff as a team would. We work with ideas, and emotions to produce wisdom in motion so you have the insight you need as you work out your relationship, not much unlike you would use plays in a game to do well in the game. Your united front fosters open communication that ensures both partners are heard, understood and respected.

This isn't just therapy, it's co-therapy. A philosophy that empowers couples like you to discover the magic of "us." We're your team, and your needs come first. We offer arrays of sessions that truly help you succeed, and all outside the limitations and confines of insurance.

Unlock the connection you deserve! Schedule your FREE consultation today.

P.S. Check out our exciting Couples Retreat below!
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Next Couples Retreat: Galena, IL

Make your best relationship happen. Join us for our upcoming "Intimacy Reimagined" Retreat & Intensive in Galena, Il on September 18-22, 2024!

Our Counseling and Coaching Services

Feeling Lost in Your Relationship? Is communication breaking down? Struggling to understand each other's needs? At Real Connections Counseling (Urbandale, Des Moines, Winterset), we specialize in helping couples navigate relationship challenges.

What makes us different?
1. Tailored Approach:
We go beyond one-size-fits-all solutions. We'll work with you to
understand your specific situation and develop a personalized plan.

2. Co-Therapy Advantage:
Benefit from two experienced therapists working together to guide
you towards a stronger connection.

3. Actionable Skills:
You'll learn practical communication techniques to build trust, resolve conflict,
and create a lasting partnership.

What If Your Future held understanding by your partner? Or that you'd be able to navigate disagreements
calmly and effectively? What if you could say, "We were good back then, but not this good? Investing in your
relationship is an investment in your happiness.

But why choose Real Connections Counseling?

1. CoTherapy has the kind of track record of success in helping couples
reconnect that outpaces even the national average!
2. Experienced and compassionate therapists.
3. Flexible scheduling options.

Schedule a free consultation today and take the first step towards a more fulfilling future together.

Pre-Marital Counseling

We build 'real connections' - solid and safe connections between you two that will last your whole life!
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Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling can be the best long-term gift you have ever given each other. Heal hurts, build better memories.
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Couples Counseling

Whatever your reasons for therapy, we are here to help you take steps together, to better your relationship.
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Couples Retreats

All-inclusive couples retreats, where you can relax, grow together, and build new skills and knowledge.
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Speaking Engagements

From keynotes to workshops to relationship resilience training, our expert speakers can help you inspire, educate, and build stronger connections.
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Group Therapy

Interact with multiple people at the same time especially when we all need similar information, education, or support.
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What makes us unique


You know what you have with CoTherapy at Real Connections Counseling? Access to one of the most successful couples counseling and coaching methods we’ve seen. Imagine the impact of two experts preparing you for life outside of grief, outside of pain, outside of horrible fights, or outside of loneliness.

What sets us apart? The team. You have more support, and you feel safer, and comfortable that both of your needs will be met. No more do you sit across from one person and wonder if you’ll truly be heard, or the one that is ganged up on. We gather up for practice and work on hard things, together.

Watch the video, then Contact Real Connections Counseling today and embark on your journey with us.

Meet the Team

Our life as counseling partners is also our life’s work. We bring our own unique personalities and approaches to counseling that actually becomes a unique asset to our couples and families.
Rick Elgersma

Rick Elgersma

LMFT, M. Litt

Monique Elgersma

Cora Drew

Cora Drew

Jess Hall

Jess Hall

Alyssa Elgersma

Alyssa Elgersma


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