When you turn over each morning and see your partner beside you, you want to be confident that you're looking at your best friend.

Rick Elgersma, LMFT, M. Litt
Des Moines Area Couples Counseling and Coaching!

Co-Therapy For You

It's Time To Show Up For Practice: Co-Therapy at Real Connections … You & Your Dream Relationship Team

Are you living with a "roommate?" Does your spouse seem to prefer the children over you? Are you suffering from a tragedy that you can seem to get over, and it's pulling down your marriage? Does it seem like all of your communication is a fight? Your spouse has cheated on you, and you don't know if you can stay in the marriage?

Doesn't seem alright, we know. But what we do know is that Real Connections can help you. We team up with you both and work on hard things together. Your team of counselors and coaches can make you a winning couple again. We can help you find that light at the end of the tunnel.

Our collaborative approach through CoTherapy, allows us to form a group with the full intention of rebuilding your relationship into a high-level, powerful, amazing couple. It's the team ... "many hands make light work" goes the saying and Real Connections achieves that with couples every day.

You have the benefit of a professional team who counsels and coaches you as you grow to championship levels of couplehood. Our skilled therapists & coaches provide comprehensive guidance at the highest level of teamwork who support you as you reach your relationship goals.

We show up for judgement free practice together, strategizing and working on the tough stuff as a team would. We work with ideas, and emotions to produce wisdom in motion so you have the insight you need as you work out your relationship, not much unlike you would use plays in a game to do well in the game.

This isn't just therapy, it's co-therapy. A philosophy that empowers couples like you to discover the magic of "us." We offer several types of sessions that help you succeed, and all outside the limitations and confines of insurance. Do we really want insurance to dictate your relationship's success?

Unlock the connection you deserve! Schedule your FREE consultation today.

P.S. Check out our exciting Couples Retreat below!
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Next Couples Retreat: Galena, IL

Make your best relationship happen. Join us for our upcoming "Intimacy Reimagined" Retreat in Galena, Illinois on September 18-22, 2024!

Our Counseling and Coaching Services

Feeling Lost in Your Relationship? Is communication breaking down? Struggling to understand each other's needs? At Real Connections Counseling (Locally in Urbandale, Des Moines, Winterset, and options for Colorado & Hawaii), we specialize in helping couples navigate relationship challenges.

What makes us different?
1. Tailored Approach:
We go beyond one-size-fits-all solutions. We'll work with you to understand your specific situation and develop a personalized plan.

2. Co-Therapy Advantage:
Benefit from two experienced therapists working together to guide you towards a stronger connection.

3. Actionable Skills:
You'll learn practical communication techniques to build trust, resolve conflict, and create a lasting partnership.

What If Your Future held understanding by your partner? Or that you'd be able to navigate disagreements calmly and effectively? What if you could say, "We were good back then, but not this good? Investing in your relationship is an investment in your happiness.

But why choose Real Connections Counseling?

1. CoTherapy has the kind of track record of success in helping couples reconnect that outpaces even the national average!
2. Experienced and compassionate therapists.
3. Flexible scheduling options.
4. Counseling, Coaching, Intensives and Retreats.

Schedule a free consultation today and take the first step towards a more fulfilling future together.

Pre-Marital Counseling

We build 'real connections' - solid and safe connections between you two that will last your whole life!
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Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling can be the best long-term gift you have ever given each other. Heal hurts, build better memories.
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Couples Counseling

Whatever your reasons for therapy, we are here to help you take steps together, to better your relationship.
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Couples Retreats

All-inclusive couples retreats, where you can relax, grow together, and build new skills & knowledge along side a small group of other couples.
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Speaking Engagements

From keynotes to workshops to relationship resilience training, our expert speakers can help you inspire, educate, and build stronger connections.
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Group Therapy

Interact with multiple people at the same time especially when we all need similar information, education, or support.
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What makes us unique


You know what you have with CoTherapy at Real Connections Counseling? Access to one of the most successful couples counseling and coaching methods we’ve seen.

What sets us apart? The team. You have more support, and you feel safer, and comfortable that both of your needs will be met. And you'll not wonder whether you've been heard. Your team wants to succeed with you, not bias against you.

Watch the video, then Contact Real Connections Counseling today and embark on your journey with us.

Meet the Team

Our life as counseling partners is also our life’s work. We bring our own unique personalities and approaches to counseling that actually becomes a unique asset to our couples and families.
Rick Elgersma

Rick Elgersma

LMFT, M. Litt

Monique Elgersma

Cora Drew

Cora Drew

Jess Hall

Jess Hall

Alyssa Elgersma

Alyssa Elgersma


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