“The Big Bond Theory” has little to do with Sean Connery or a man named James. I haven’t named a drink after it… yet. But bonded relationships matter. I’m talking about your spouse… and I’m talking about your family, and friends, and neighbors. The Big Bond Theory is that thing you will study with your life. No, it’s not that you have to be all lovey-dovey with everyone, and I’m not trying to espouse the glories of gregarious extroversion over the doldrums of introversion. All of you, no matter who you are… you’re beautiful. You’re full of color, and ambition, and feeling.
Some of you haven’t been treated very well. I know. This theory won’t suddenly make your relational misgivings go away. But they can help you learn to trust, and learn to be interested in people, their lives, and their ideas. We’re dedicated to helping you learn to appreciate bonds, to learn what it means to be unconditional, humble, loyal, helpful, generous, and industrious towards others. We dedicate ourselves to make you better, and in turn, you will make others better because they’ll know you’re there, that you have their back, that you’ve created a strong bond. The theory? Implement what you find here at Real Relationships Take Time, LLC, and you’ll be better and stronger, and unified.
Permit yourself time to form strong bonds with your loved ones. It’s like baking the perfect pastry, or preparing the perfect cup of tea. I love baking my original morning biscuits, ingredients added in such a way that what seems like a hodge-podge of flour, milk, and eggs (plus some unique secret ingredients) turns into a soft flaky biscuit. And I prepare my tea to a temperature that does not damage the tea, but allows the leaf to steep and mature into a full flavored drink that caresses my mouth with flavor. You can’t buy bonded relationships at the store. Like the biscuit and the tea, relationships first take the willingness to not only make relationships, but also to tend to them, and to look forward to how they might turn out.
Jesus Christ when he gave his sermon on the mount, offered blessings to different people, including the meek, the peacemakers, and the poor in spirit and continued to teach about serving the needy, loving ones enemies, and prayer (see Matthew 5-7). A detailed word study of Jesus’ use of “blessed” having used the word makaroi, throughout his sermon, means, “to be envied and fully lifted up” rather than happy, which is an external “I’m happy because I’m doing all the right things.” The sermon than makes sense because the meek were told that they fully lifted and blessed. Whether you are a Christian or not, you can probably see the wisdom of the blessing. The Big Bond Theory is as much about taking care of you, as it is learning to be relational and taking care of others, blessing them, and lifting them up fully, not because they deserve it, but because you love them.
Be emotionally available. Our best piece of advice is in our name. Real relationships take time.
Helpful Personal Verses
Acts 2:45-46: They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts.
Ecclesiastes 4:12: A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.