When most of you married, you promised that you would prefer your spouse over all others. So often when I ask a couple who their most important person in their life is, they say, “Our children.” I may sound harsh, but I’m not intending harshness, so many couples break up because they forgot to lock arms and remain a unit while raising the children. They have spent so much time raising children, and so little time building a relationship with your spouse. Intimacy is more than sex, and relationships are more than periodic conversations…your most important person in your life is your spouse.
Single? Your most important people in your life might be several people. My point is that there’s every reason to get away with that most important person or most important people.
What do I mean by get away? Well that’s easy. I mean determine to prioritize that or those relationships specifically all the time. It’s one thing to manage a household with them. But those are role expectations not relationship markers.
Relationship markers are those things that let the other one know that a relationship is being worked on. You can build a relationship with your children, and you can set markers with them as well, such as Christmas traditions, craft time, story time, and talk time. They’ll appreciate you for their entire lives because you marked your relationship specially. But they’ll leave you, and find their own significant relationships that often take priority over you. So set markers for the ones you know will be with you, will be with you, and will see you often.
One relational marker is saving undivided, specific, unadulterated, affectionate, and relational time away from others. Times away according to your own style of getting away help build your relationship. That’s what we’re about here. You get to talk, you get to play, you get to help each other navigate the headaches of travel…you get to relate and build unity. I know what solidarity is, and I’m getting better at proving myself towards my wife. She has my full attention no matter what I’m doing, even when I’m in a meeting and can’t speak to her, I’ll text her quickly with a MULU. If she needs me, I will make sure she is taken care of first.
This page will be dedicated to helping you find time away. For now, we’re simply going to give you a few ideas, and we’re going to write about it weekly. You, you can sign up on this page to receive our weekly Great Getaways newsletter. Later, we’re going to give you the resources to find a great getaway near you, as well as options far far away from home. You’ll love this relational adventure. I promise.
Great Getaways are big and little times away. You may have some logistical obstacles like finding a babysitter, or finding someone who can take the children for the weekend, or a whole week! Maybe money is your barrier? But every, and I mean every, problem as a solution. Find the courage to discover the solution.