It’s socially awkward to invite people to certain activities, or events. It can be socially awkward moment when you invite someone to church, for instance. Doesn’t mean God is false – some people just feel awkward having the conversation. It’s the same with counseling – Some people experience difficulty finding a way to invite someone to therapy. That’s ok! Take heart.
Take heart? Yes, because the conversation need not be difficult, I know that too. You see, it’s a privilege to counsel people. My wife and I have seen a therapist as well. I was, and am still willing to be better with my bride. I know it feels awkward. For some the conversation seems like such a breach but take heart! Take heart because you’re giving a person such a gift to care enough to wonder about them, to care for them. Here are a couple of pointers.
To Invite Someone To See A Counselor
Perhaps a counselor would really help you
1. Couples must not be in dire straits to see a counselor (or counselors! Monique and I counsel together!). But they’re going through transition (death, empty nest, a life threatening event etc.), or they’re struggling to understand something, a traumatic event happens that you care about them for, or one of the two are suddenly disabled … so here you go: “Annie, (or Paul, Jean, Gene, Jessie, & Jerry), it seems that you’re going through something that may a counselor can help with … and there is a couple that cares so much to help. I can give you their card, and you can make a call, if you want to – if you think that’s a good idea.”
2. Sometimes couples and people are in dire straits, yet people, not wanting to interfere, leave the lonely and hurting alone. What a gift your heart for them could be for that person! Take your heart for them and say something like, “Jenny (or Jamie), you (or you guys) seem to be hurting so much, and my heart hurts for you too. Perhaps a counselor would really help you. I know that therapy could be such a good thing. Here’s a card of a couple that love to help people, and they would love to help you. You can make the call if you’d like to, but I didn’t want to simply be ok with you suffering so. I care very much.”
Love Your Neighbor
You can say good things! Yep, you might feel socially awkward, but such a gift you could be for them. My family and I have been taught a lot throughout our faith-driven life, and one principle we’ve learned carries the kind of weight that changes lives. Love your neighbor. Love your neighbor as yourself, actually. One way to look at it is that I should want to take care of myself, and others. Love your neighbor. It’s good to want that the hurting be helped, that the torn be healed.
I’m not saying this for greedy reasons, no. There are good counselors throughout your city. Use them. I’ll help you find the right help if we are not your choice. But I am telling you that having the counseling conversation with others need not be scary, but instead can be immensely satisfying, and important.
We love to care for you. Our hope is in our name, “Real Connections” and our goal is passionately about “Enhancing Relationships.” You’ll always see that about us. We love to help you make yourselves better. We love to think about how best to be good for you, and we love to help you learn more ways to care about the ones you love.
The leaders of our church at Lutheran Church of Hope say every week, “It’s no accident that you’re here. And we’ve been praying for you.” We get to do that too. We get to love you that way. Now, again take heart! Your story matters. There will be more stories and tips to come!