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Des Moines, IA

Pre-Marital Counseling

If you want to start your relationship off right, you’ve come to the right place! We build ‘real connections’ – solid and safe connections between you two that will last your whole life.

Couples Foundation

Not sure your are ready to marry - or been married for a few years, but want to build your relationship with a solid foundation, this is also the right plan! The information in the Foundations Class is perfect for those getting married soon - or for those looking for foundational skills!

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Relational Skill-Building is for Everyone

Real Connections Counseling offers pre-marital counseling and relationship coaching using a Couples Foundation Skill-Building Class to help couples prepare for a rewarding and fulfilling marriage and life-long relationship. Our CoTherapy™ approach will begin by guiding you through a 15-page assessment questionnaire and online assessment to identify potential rough spots in your relationship. With our relationship-building education & coaching, we will help you develop essential relational skills for dealing with conflict, communication, and trust – the top issues we see in our practice.

Our program is designed to be fun and stimulating, but also challenging. You may find it scary at times as your conversations and relationship move into uncharted waters, but rest assured that it will strengthen your resolve to be a "together-or-not-at-all" couple.

The assessment has led to the kind of growth that truly builds relational health. Give us 4-hours of your time and we will help you create a healthy relationship and marriage that will stand the test of time. 

The COMPLETE Couples Foundation Program

  • Three personal 80-minute couples sessions with two therapists (CoTherapy™), plus one 6-month follow up session
  • One four-hour Couples Foundation Skill-Building class led by two therapists
  • Two formal assessments and a couple of class assessments/assignments to build your foundational structure
  • Total cost of the program: $2100 when paid in full (buy button below)


The Couples Foundation Class ONLY

Offered on a Saturday as a four-hour educational event for two to five couples where we discuss foundational information for building a solid relationship: staying connected for the long term while exploring the enneagram and how it can help you understand your partner’s approach to communication, dealing with conflicts, handling life and stress. It’s a skill-building class with proven strategies for building healthy relationship boundaries, strong communication, and conflict resolution.

  • Two formal assessments and a couple of class assessments/assignments to build your foundational structure
  • Cost of the class & assessments alone: $850 when paid in full (buy button below)


Upcoming The Couples Foundation Class Dates

 

Our Couples Foundation Skill-Building Class is offered quarterly for 4.5 hours!

We schedule them on a Saturday to allow for most people to block of the 4.5 hour time needed to attend.

Plan on the dates below with a 9 AM - 1:30 PM time frame, allowing for class to start a little after 9 AM, allow for some breaks, and make sure you are out by 1:30!

December 13, 2025 

March 28, 2026 

June 27, 2026

August 22, 2026

November 14, 2026

(Please note what date you want during your pre-paid sign up)

 

 

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Personal Couple Sessions

We recommend one session before the class to get to know you and your desired learning and needs and one session after the group class to work on anything that came up during the class or to enhance that information. These are not required, but many couples discover that they feel more confident about the class and the skills learned by meeting individually as a couple along with the class. If you go with our recommended Complete Program option of four sessions, we will set up those two sessions and the remaining two session topics are chosen by you. The purpose of these four sessions is to address any personal concerns or issues you would like to discuss as a couple. 

Premarital Class

We no longer separate our "Couples Foundation" class from our "Pre-Marital class" because many new relationship benefit from the basic relationship skill building and most of the couples that come to the class are looking at an upcoming wedding! The information gained is helpful for those looking to start off their relationship and for those that have realized that they are missing a few key relationship skills. We include proven strategies for building healthy relationship boundaries, strong communication, and conflict resolution.

Assessments

Relationship Questionnaire

Pre-Marital Questionnaire has 15 pages of short answer questions to help us – and you – sort out some of the significant topics that couples need to address and know about each other before marriage. We will customize some group learning to address topics our couples need to address. After the group learning is complete, we also allow you to come to personalized individual couples sessions to go over these concerns (prepaid with the complete program or chosen later).

Enneagram Questionnaire

We will provide you a code and link to take an enneagram questionnaire before the Foundations Class. It is a 144-question assessment that we will utilize in the group. We will share information about each number and how this will help you in your relationship growth, in communication, in resolving conflicts, and building a solid, intimate relationship.

Please call the office at 515-635-1805 or email [email protected] for more information on specific class dates. 

CoTherapy

What if your relationship became your greatest investment?

Strong, leadership-minded couples invest.

Seriously, something brought you here.

Betrayal, distance, anger, or a relationship that has settled into something you know it was never meant to be. Living like that doesn’t work for you, and it doesn’t work for us either.

We don’t leave patterns like that untouched.

Our team steps into what’s happening, exposes what keeps breaking down, and rebuilds your relationship with clarity, strength, and connection you can actually live inside of.

Rebuild trust. Restore closeness. Lead your relationship forward.

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The Real Connections Experience

Not just therapy.

Not just coaching.

We're far more transformative.

Meet the Team

Our life as counseling partners is also our life’s work. We bring our own unique personalities and approaches to counseling that actually becomes a unique asset to our couples and families.
Rick Elgersma

Rick Elgersma

Owner, LMFT, M. Litt
Licensed in Iowa, Hawaii, Colorado

Monique Elgersma

Owner, LMFT
Licensed in Iowa, Hawaii, Illinois, Colorado
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Alyssa Elgersma

THERAPIST & ADMIN
LPCC (CO) & tLMHC (IA)

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Matthew Graham

Matthew Graham

Student Intern, CADC

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