Des Moines, IA

Pre-Marital Counseling

If you want to start your relationship off right, you’ve come to the right place! We build ‘real connections’ – solid and safe connections between you two that will last your whole life.
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Pre-Marital Counseling is for Everyone

Real Connections Counseling offers pre-marital counseling to help couples prepare for a rewarding and fulfilling marriage. Our co-therapists will guide you through a 15-page assessment questionnaire and online assessment to identify potential rough spots in your relationship. With our foundational relationship-building skills, we will help you develop essential relational skills for dealing with conflict, communication, and trust – the top issues we see in our practice.

Our program is designed to be fun and stimulating, but also challenging. You may find it scary at times as your conversations and relationship move into uncharted waters, but rest assured that it will strengthen your resolve to be a "together-or-not-at-all" couple.

Trust us, the assessment has led to the kind of growth that truly builds relational health. Let us help you create a healthy marriage that will stand the test of time.

The Real Connections Premarital Program

  • Either two or four personal couples, 50-minute sessions with two therapists (co-therapy) 
  • One four-hour pre-marital class led by two therapists
  • Two formal assessments and a couple of class assessments/assignments to build your foundational structure

Personal Couple Sessions

One session before the class to get to know you and your desired learning and needs and one session after the group class to work on anything that came up during the class or to enhance that information. If you choose our recommended standard option of four sessions, the remaining two session topics can be determined by you. The purpose of these four sessions is to address any personal concerns or issues you would like to discuss as a couple. 

Premarital Class

Usually offered on a Saturday as a four-hour educational event for two to five couples where we cover general skills for a solid relationship foundation, like staying connected for the long term while exploring the enneagram and how it can help you understand your partner’s approach to communication, conflicts, handling life and stress. It’s a skill-building class with proven strategies for building healthy relationship boundaries, strong communication, and conflict resolution.


Pre-Marital Questionnaire

Pre-Marital Questionnaire has 15 pages of short answer questions to help us – and you – sort out some of the significant topics that couples need to address and know about each other before marriage. We will customize some group learning to address topics our couples need to address. After the group learning is complete, we can also allow you to come to personalized individual couples sessions at a discounted price to go over these concerns . We include proven strategies for building healthy relationship boundaries, strong communication, and conflict resolution.

Enneagram Questionnaire

We will provide you a code and link to take an enneagram questionnaire before the Premarital Class. It is a 144-question assessment that we will utilize in the group. We will share information about each number and how this will help you in your relationship growth, in communication, in resolving conflicts, and building a solid, intimate relationship.

Please call the office at 515-635-1805 or email [email protected] for more information on specific class dates. 

What makes us unique


You know what you have with CoTherapy at Real Connections Counseling? Access to one of the most successful couples counseling and coaching methods we’ve seen.

What sets us apart? The team. You have more support, and you feel safer, and comfortable that both of your needs will be met. And you'll not wonder whether you've been heard. Your team wants to succeed with you, not bias against you.

Watch the video, then Contact Real Connections Counseling today and embark on your journey with us.

Meet the Team

Our life as counseling partners is also our life’s work. We bring our own unique personalities and approaches to counseling that actually becomes a unique asset to our couples and families.
Rick Elgersma

Rick Elgersma

LMFT, M. Litt

Monique Elgersma

Cora Drew

Cora Drew

Jess Hall

Jess Hall

Alyssa Elgersma

Alyssa Elgersma


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